Saturday, February 18, 2017

Chats Over Coffee #2 // On Vulnerability

Well hey there,

Did I mean to disappear for almost three weeks? No. Did I previously say I grasped the concept of time management? Yes. Did I really? Well, obviously not. GUYS I really miss blogging and I feel like I've been so disconnected from everyone this year. Seriously, classes have been kicking my butt and most of my weekends are spent working. Writing and blogging have become my last priority, which has been awful, but something I've had to do in order to stay sane and complete my assignments. Somehow, I've managed to find some time to sit down and talk to you all, so I'm pretty excited.

So about a month ago, everyone was talking about what their 2017 word was going to be. I thought it seemed like such a great idea, but I never got around to talking about it. This year, I decided to choose vulnerability. Being vulnerable is so much more than talking about your woes, but it's sharing your story and risking ridicule, being open nonetheless in hopes what you have to say can help someone else (from Lizzy's dictionary that is probably inaccurate). Vulnerability is so vital to relationships and can change your life, so I think it's pretty darn important.

i. vulnerability leads to authentic relationships

Tell me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's hard to be true to yourself if you're not vulnerable. When you're hiding parts of your story in fear of being judged or hurt, you're not letting people see an important part of who you are. Authentic relationships are wonderful, it's important to have a person you can trust and lean on. But you need to be authentic as well. Now I'm not saying you need to tell your life story to every single person you meet, but don't be shy to open up to the people you know and care about.

ii. vulnerability leads to a better relationship with yourself

Being vulnerable requires you to love yourself and be comfortable with your flaws and your story. This doesn't always come right away, nor are you always one hundred percent okay with yourself, but being vulnerable helps you see you as you: a human with flaws and insecurities, but powerful and beautiful all the same. Being vulnerable has helped me be more open with myself. I've become comfortable with who I am and a lot of my insecurities have died away. I've learned to accept myself, thus being more open for others to see me.

iii. vulnerability can change other people's lives

God made you for a reason, and your story is so important. Sometime's it's hard to see why God would allow bad things to happen to us, but in everything, He is good. Whether you've dealt with mental illness, a death of a loved one, an injury, abuse, loneliness, or something else, that can be shared with other's going through the same thing and can change how they look at their life. I can't express this enough, your story should be shared! Not just because you are important (which you are) but that God has given you this life and you can use the good and bad to encourage others through their ups and downs. It's because of people in my life who were willing to share parts of themselves that I was able to open up more and realize that life is good and in the darkness, there is always light to be found. So become comfortable with being vulnerable, you have no idea how much of an impact your story can be on others.

Okay great Liz, but how in the world do I become vulnerable? Well let me tell you.

i. share your testimony

Ahhh scary right? Well, it doesn't have to be. I'm not saying you need to go on stage in front of your youth group or church, but find someone you trust and share your story with them. As I've been saying, God has given you life for a reason and that reason is important! Your story means something and should be shared. Find a friend or family member you're close to and exchange testimonies. Or, if you have a small group, think about talking to your leader and organizing a night where you can all get together, share your testimonies and pray for one another. Sharing your testimony helps you become more confident in becoming vulnerable and shows you just how far you've come and how much God has done in your life.

ii. be open with your feelings

There's a difference in sharing how you feel vs. complaining (*ahem* go check out my blog post on that, shameless self promo). But if someones asks you how your day was, or how you're feeling, be honest with them! If it was great, share how it was encouraging. If you're having a rough day, tell them how they can pray for you. You don't have to lay out your heart to them, but in sharing just small bits and pieces of your day and feelings, you begin to become more familiar with sharing the more vulnerable parts of yourself.

iii. find a group of encouraging friends

This is huge! It's hard to be vulnerable with strangers, for a good reason! You don't know those people or what they might do with the information you give them. It's really important to find a group of friends you know are trustworthy and will give biblical advice to you. Maybe join a small group through your church or youth group. If you have encouraging christian friends, draw closer to them and build strong relationships. If you're a part of the blogging community, reach out to your friends! The bloggers here are amazing and full of encouragement. Seriously, if you want to be my friend and share life experiences, hit me up! I would love love getting to know you better.

**Would any of you be interested in me sharing my testimony here on the blog sometime in the near future, and then possibly featuring a few awesome bloggers willing to share their testimonies on here as well? Because I think that'd be pretty cool and a wonderful way to see how God is working in each one of our lives. So let me know what you all think of that idea

Sorry if this was a bit of a sappy post, but guys this is really important to me! I actually just shared my testimony in front of my youth group a few weeks ago and wow it was scary, but it affirmed to me that this was going to be my goal this year. I want to share my story and how God has changed me, and I want to hear your story and what's made you who you are right now! So grab some coffee (or tea), and chat with me. What has God done in your life? What makes you so freaking amazing? Because don't forget about the amazing person that you are my friend. And hit that notify me button so we can continue the conversation. I look forward to hearing your thoughts :)

Have a restful weekend my friends,



  1. but wait. this is harder than you think.... gosh it all liz, you're just too good with words bc now I'm really thinking

    *goes off to do more thinking*

  2. I love this post! You've said a lot of really important things, and have really made me think a lot more about vulnerability!

  3. Man. This is definitely something I have trouble with. Sometimes, regardless of who I tell things to, I end up feeling like I've been stripped bare which isn't always so awesome.

    1. Yeah I totally get that, it's an uncomfortable feeling for sure, especially at first.

  4. Sorry school has been so hard, come to think of it my school work has been kind of heavy lately. Maybe the schools are all in league :D That's great that you where able to share your testimony! I still get kind of nervous whenever I share mine, I think it has to do with that vulnerability stuff you where taking about. I just don't like that feeling of vulnerability (who does right?).

    1. Oh my goodness that must be it!! xD
      Yeah for sure, it is an extremely vulnerable thing to do and not something I love, but I think it's good to feel that though.

  5. Vulnerability is so hard, but sooooo important, wow.

  6. Wow, vulnerability is something that's been on my mind a lot for the last few months. I really appreciate your points here, Liz. Vulnerability is so powerful. And yes, it would be wonderful to hear your testimony! Thanks for sharing your heart here! xx

    1. Thanks, Jessica :) Same, I'm glad I'm not alone.
      Eeeep okay not I'm getting nervouse ;) Thanks for reading!

    is God talking here???? because wow I am a scared little bug who only wants hugs and my best friend please. but He has been drawing me out of my comfort zone, and i think i have been trembling every step. oh, i am of little faith.
    i'm going to this Winter Conference 2-day thing at my church this weekend. and it's scary. because even though i've been going to my church for a solid four years, i don't know people that personally. (how does that work???? no one knows. whoops.) AND SLOWLY GOD HAS BEEN LIKE CALLY COME ON. TIME TO GO. BE VULNERABLE.
    but hi.
    i am the babiest baby that ever lived.
    So yeah, this is probably God speaking. and i'm still a little scared, but i need to lift my eyes up to His. and have a little faith. yeah.
    HAHA MY HEART IS STILL A LITTLE ANXIOUS. pray for me, yeah? i need it.

    ALSO. I would LOVE to hear your testimony. I do not feel called to share mine (it's not a super interesting one, anyway. it was pretty gradual and not really a "yep, that was the moment when i knew." thing. so lolz). but yes!! share yours.

    1. Your comments always make me cry happy tears, like wow oh wow girl how do you do that??
      Like oh my goodness, God is amazing right? right!
      I hope you enjoyed your conference and got to know people a little better. I know the feeling all too well, but church is family and community so i hope you had a good time <3

      EEEP okay okay I guess I better start drafting huh? But girl noooo don't say your testimony isn't interesting, everyone has a special story.

  8. wowowowow this <33 vulnerability is something i honestly don't think about enough, but it is so important. i feel like in a lot of friendships people don't want to be vulnerable because it looks weak...but really, that's the stuff relationships are built on <3


    1. YES I'm so glad you said that. Being vulnerable is the complete opposite of being weak. Word girl, word.

      Thanks <3


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